By Chandler Sullivan
December 7, 2023 | 3 Min. Read

The holiday season, often seen as the most wonderful time of the year, can also bring a significant amount of stress and anxiety for many individuals. From the pressure of gift-giving to the hustle and bustle of holiday preparations, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being during this time.

In this blog, we’ll explore the causes of holiday stress, provide tips on dealing with it, highlight examples of holiday stress, discuss holiday anxiety, and offer strategies to promote mental wellness.

Indeed, holiday anxiety is not a figment of your imagination but a reality that many individuals grapple with. This condition emerges from a complex mix of factors that are often amplified during holiday seasons.

The primary factor contributing to this state of mental distress is the heightened expectations that come with holidays. People often feel compelled to make these occasions special and memorable, which can put immense pressure on them.

Alongside this, there is an increased social obligation during the festive season. Attending holiday parties, family get-togethers, and other social events is part and parcel of this period. However, for some, this can become a source of stress and anxiety, particularly for those who struggle with social interactions or have a lot on their plate.

Moreover, the desire and pressure to create a flawless holiday experience add another layer of stress. The pursuit of perfection, especially in the era of social media where everything is on display, can be mentally exhausting and anxiety-inducing. Holiday anxiety can even lead to overspending on items to make others happy, instead of prioritizing current financial situations.

The manifestation of holiday anxiety can vary from person to person. However, common symptoms may include feelings of restlessness, a heightened state of irritability, persistent fatigue, and difficulty concentrating. Recognizing these signs early on can be crucial in managing and alleviating the impact of holiday anxiety.

Holiday stress can be attributed to various factors, including:

The expectation of giving and receiving gifts, hosting gatherings, and decorating homes can strain holiday budgets.

Attending multiple social events and family gatherings may lead to feelings of overwhelm and fatigue.

Striving for the perfect holiday experience, from decorations to meals, can create unrealistic expectations and unnecessary stress.

The rush to meet deadlines for shopping, cooking, and decorating can cause time-related stress.

Interactions with family members, especially in larger gatherings, can sometimes be challenging due to multiple reasons.

On the one hand, the holiday season can offer a multitude of mental health benefits. The joy and happiness from spending quality time with loved ones, participating in holiday traditions, and indulging in festive activities, can significantly enhance an individual’s mood. It’s a time when people can step back from their regular routines and embrace the spirit of festivity, which can often result in a mood uplift.

On the other hand, despite the inherent joy and excitement, the holiday season can also bring about a considerable amount of stress and pressure. The hassles of holiday planning, the financial strain of gift-giving, or even the emotional burden of dealing with difficult family dynamics, can all contribute to heightened anxiety levels. Furthermore, for some individuals, the holiday season can be a time of loneliness and isolation, which can worsen feelings of depression. The expectations of happiness and joy during these times can inadvertently add to the distress of those who may be struggling with their mental health.

When it comes to overcoming holiday guilt, there are several strategies that can be effectively implemented.

The first strategy involves setting boundaries. This means that you should not hesitate to make it clear to others what your limits are. Be forthright about your comfort zones and emotional capacity. Remember, it’s not selfish, but rather essential, to prioritize your needs, especially during busy holiday periods.

The second strategy is practicing self-compassion. This involves acknowledging and understanding that your well-being is first and foremost. It’s perfectly okay to put your needs first, and it’s a reminder that you should be as kind to yourself as you would be to others. Self-compassion is an essential part of maintaining mental health, and it’s a practice that can help alleviate feelings of guilt often associated with the holiday season.

Lastly, the third strategy is to focus on what truly matters. The holidays are a time for togetherness and shared experiences rather than a competition or showcase of material possessions and grand gestures. Reflect on the true essence of the holidays, which is to forge and strengthen connections with loved ones. Encourage experiences that foster these connections and create lasting memories. By keeping the focus on these meaningful aspects, you can navigate the holiday season with a sense of purpose and fulfillment, reducing any feelings of guilt along the way.

Many individuals find themselves navigating the holiday season in solitude, which can sometimes lead to feelings of loneliness. While it’s natural to crave connection during this time, there is a unique chance to embrace solitude and turn it into an opportunity for self-discovery and personal well-being.

Being alone during the holidays, although sometimes causing sadness, can actually be an opportunity to practice mindfulness. Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace, such as meditation, art, reading, or taking long walks. Embrace the present moment, allowing yourself to fully experience and appreciate what is around you.

Use this time alone to reflect on the past year, acknowledging personal growth, achievements, and lessons learned. Consider it a time of renewal and self-discovery, allowing yourself to recharge for the upcoming year. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Many people find themselves feeling lonely during this time, which essentially doesn’t make you alone in these feelings.

Talking to others who may share your feelings (either via the Internet or in real life) can help you to feel less alone in your situation.

Physical distance doesn’t have to mean emotional distance. Plan virtual gatherings with friends and family through video calls, allowing you to share the holiday spirit and create a sense of connection despite the physical separation.

Volunteer Opportunities

Channel your energy into acts of kindness by volunteering for local charities or community events. Contributing to the well-being of others can bring a sense of fulfillment and purpose, making your holiday season more meaningful.

Create your own holiday traditions that align with your interests and values. Whether it’s cooking a special meal, watching favorite movies, or indulging in a hobby, these personal pieces can turn a solo holiday experience into a celebration of self-love.

Keep a gratitude journal to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Acknowledge the things you are thankful for, no matter how small. Creating a mindset of gratitude can shift your perspective and enhance your overall well-being.

If feelings of loneliness become overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional. Sharing your emotions and seeking support is a sign of strength, and there are resources available to help you during these times.

If you or a loved one is experiencing signs or symptoms of depression or a mental health crisis, please seek help at the Mental Health First Aid website for more resources and support. Additionally, you can call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Dial 988 in case of emergency.